DOMINO WISDOM

by Ray Jason

Years ago, I nick-named this modest little spot The Domino Triangle. It was too tiny for an actual building, so a tarp had been slung to provide shelter from the sun and the rain. Beneath it was a folding card table and some battered chairs, where the locals would play dominoes.

When the tropical heat would begin to lessen in the late afternoon, the men would start gathering. They arrived with beer and a little pocket money. They also brought something that is increasingly rare in our modern world – modest, earth-bound happiness.

Their conversations revolved around the elemental concerns of bedrock Humanity – too much work and not enough pay, the entertaining inscrutability of wives and girlfriends, and the follies of their grandchildren. Nobody was discussing how many pixels the next iPhone camera would have or the volatility of Bitcoin.

I often stopped and watched them play. In dark moments, when the melancholy was heavy on me, it reassured me to realize that scattered all around our troubled planet at this very instant, there were millions of other people laughing and teasing as they shuffled the tiles for the next game.

But aside from the relaxed playfulness and friendship that permeated this simple triangle, there was something else in play here that I had been trying to unravel for a long time. The other day, when someone unexpectedly had to leave the table, the men asked me if I wanted to play. When I told them that I didn’t know how, they offered to teach me. One of them joked that it probably wouldn’t be a very expensive lesson. Another laughed and asked me how much money I had in my wallet.

Although I felt honored by this invitation, I declined and then finished my errands in town and headed back to my boat. That evening, as the sun departed and the stars arrived, I sat on AVENTURA’s deck and wondered what it was about these simple domino games that touched me so deeply. Suddenly, a word cascaded into my consciousness that seemed to answer my question. The word was ACCEPTANCE.

The power of that realization, led me to question what word I would use to describe myself, as I wander through my Middle Years. I could not settle on one, but there were two that definitely seemed appropriate to this stage of my life’s voyage. Those two are Seeker and Awakener.

For many years now I have been seeking to understand how the world truly works. And simultaneously, as my awareness increases, I have been trying to awaken others to the fact that those who control the narrative about how the world works are DECEIVING us.

They know that supposedly democratic societies are not actually ruled by The People. They know that turning the friendly neighborhood policeman into RoboCop, is not to protect us. They know that you cannot solve a problem of too much global debt with more debt. They know that war does not end war. They know that the good jobs are never coming back – and that the robots ARE coming.

They know that there is enough bounty on our plush planet for everyone to live a decent, healthy life. But for this to happen they know that they themselves would have to live in less obscene opulence.  They know that you cannot have infinite growth on a finite planet. They know that you can only poison the Sky, the Earth and the Water for so long until the tipping point arrives and Collapse thunders in. They know all of this and yet they lie and they shuck and jive and they proclaim that we have never had it better.

For years now, in over 100 essays, I have tried to expose this. And a thousand others, scattered throughout the internet, have raised their voices in protest as well. But when I survey the societal vectors, do I see a world where suffering is declining and compassion is increasing?

No – emphatically NO! Our efforts – and my efforts – just seem so useless and hopeless. But then that long-suffering idealist within me reminds me that Voltaire and Thomas Paine and Gandhi were also bludgeoned by doubt as they tried to crusade onward. And I momentarily find comfort in the words of Ulysses as he rallied his men, “Arise, my friends, tis not too late to seek a newer world!”

But look at this “newer world.” We humans have “progressed” to the point where our philosophy is so puny and our weaponry so mighty that we risk vaporizing our species and our planet. And if we avoid that, we still might poison our biological support system. And, if we survive that, we still face another apocalypse as the Digital Age Dr. Frankensteins try to merge us with machines and THE CLOUD.

And so, as I watch the contented men slap the dominoes on the table and chatter happily about inconsequential matters, I recognize that there is great wisdom in their acceptance of the way things are. They instinctively understand that my attempts to make the world at least a tiny bit better are probably doomed to failure and may lead to despair.

They know in their heart of hearts that this life is short. But they also know that the beer is cold and laughter is superb medicine and there is a chair opening up at the table, so why don’t I join them?

And perhaps – I finally will …

 

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Machinist
Machinist
August 12, 2021 3:32 pm

Dominos seem to be a rather constant sight throughout the Caribbean. I also didn’t understand the allure of the game, as I would have preferred backgammon. But, while waiting for a cab to show, I also was invited to play and like you, at first I refused as I did not know the object of the game or the rules. They cajoled me to have a seat and said that they would explain the rules and the ways the tiles were to be placed. They seemed to take great satisfaction of having a new convert and they especially liked to slam the tiles upon the table to see their opponent’s faces.
My cab rolled up and I took my leave while thanking them all for entertaining me while I had waited for the ride.
They encouraged my return in the future by telling me “come by anytime”. I’ll have to admit that I enjoyed their company and just as you wrote, it is about acceptance.
Thanks for the reminder of that experience.

Bow WowO
Bow WowO
August 12, 2021 4:24 pm

it’s called enlightenment. One can only change their own world.

Glenn555
Glenn555
August 12, 2021 5:31 pm

I lived in Ponce, PR for 10 yrs. in the 80’s. WE lived in the wife’s families home for a time and I learned the game with Papi Felo and Mami Helen along with Ani, my wife! I had the everlasting beauty of winning my first game with the CHUCHA. Except in my excitement I exclaimed CHOCHA! There was a pause, very big eyes, and then a lot of laughter at the Gringo…

tabarnac
tabarnac
  Glenn555
August 12, 2021 7:31 pm

I ordered a Salty dog once….”un petho salado por favor” …There was no pause ,laughter was instantaneous. My faux pas was smaller than yours though.

hardscrabble farmer
hardscrabble farmer
August 12, 2021 7:20 pm

Great insights, but sorry you missed that opportunity to play dominoes with some old guys.

I am having a very different experience lately. I see an increasing number of people being kind and helpful to one another, an almost insatiable hunger for fellowship on a personal level and a really deep and abiding desire in people to distance themselves from the shit show that is Post America.

Acceptance is a good word for it I suppose and a mindset that must be embraced; there is no saving it, whatever we loved about our experience and our past is gone forever, but we have the future and we have each other.

You should go back and see if you can get in on a game. Bring beers and a smile.

nkit
nkit
  Ray Jason
August 13, 2021 12:18 am

My parents taught me the game at about age eight. Every night we’d play, and fight..but that was family….and we loved it…

Muscledawg (not to be known as Delusionaldawg)😉
Muscledawg (not to be known as Delusionaldawg)😉
August 13, 2021 9:43 am

Some decades ago Tom Brokaw did a story about a place called Breadings Cigar store in Warsaw Indiana. It appeared that dominos was always played by a bunch of old codgers at several tables, however, they were really playing poker with them. Dick Hagee(?) and another man(sorry I don’t recall) owned the place. They were known for their good sandwiches and soup of the day. The ruder they were to you the more they liked you. “Are you going to order something or get the fuck out”, all in good fun. Their motto was “Where the customer is always wrong”. They had the best chocolate malts in the world. I doubt any of them are still with us today. I was 16 (c. 1969) at the time. Thanks for the memory recall Ray.
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