Love, respect, fortitude and the ability to keep your mouth shut when they squeeze the toothpaste from the top and put the toilet paper roll on backwards.
Llpoh
July 21, 2015 6:10 am
Rule 1: keep your mouth shut.
There are no other rules.
Administrator
July 21, 2015 6:28 am
The key is getting some alone time.
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card802
July 21, 2015 6:39 am
After 35 years of marriage, 28 of them working together in our business, two children and four grandchildren, I really have no clue. The stars and planets must have been perfectly aligned the day she said, yes.
Now I have to go take a shit, and I’m going to leave the door open.
flash
July 21, 2015 6:40 am
separate residences?
nedludd
July 21, 2015 6:45 am
I notice Mike the question is not “What is the key to a happy marriage?” instead it asks about a lengthy one. That is the beginning of understanding grasshopper, because after 34+ years I can only report that I have absolutely no idea. However it does help to place someone elses needs totally 100% before your own. Just this past weekend my 30yo daughter confided in me that she used to think her mother and I were the “….lamest, dullest people in the world. But now I realize you were right all along.” She also said she found herself becoming more and more like me as time passes. There is yet hope! Now if she would only change her voting practices…….
IndenturedServant
July 21, 2015 6:57 am
Realizing that you’ve found someone willing to put up with your dumb-ass is not something to trifle with. Marriage can be a lot like that movie Life of Pi. You have to recognize when it’s time to stay in your end of the boat or ride in the hastily built dinghy for a while. I closing in on 27 years…….6 weeks to go. I think I’m finally wearing my own “Richard Parker” down a bit but I could just be suffering from dehydration.
hardscrabble farmer
July 21, 2015 7:28 am
Date Night.
Stucky
July 21, 2015 8:10 am
Deafness. Being blind helps also.
Pirate Jo
July 21, 2015 8:24 am
Make divorce illegal!
Administrator
July 21, 2015 8:44 am
Pirate Jo
I thought you were going to say:
Don’t have kids!!!!!
Dutchman
July 21, 2015 9:04 am
Marry a woman who is deaf and dumb.
BEA LEVER
July 21, 2015 9:06 am
Veteran of 45 years. Marriage is like belonging to AA……..one day at a time. Never considering divorce as a option.
IndenturedServant
July 21, 2015 9:20 am
BEA said:
“Never considering divorce as a option.”
Perhaps I was just lucky but but I figure if you can’t stay married (and happy), you either made a poor choice in the very beginning or you have no character.
You are however granted dispensation when this chick shows up out of the blue and refuses to leave:
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flash
July 21, 2015 11:18 am
Llpoh says:
Rule 1: keep your mouth shut.
There are no other rules.
WAFP…
Bea Lever
July 21, 2015 11:22 am
I/S – I was answering the question of the day. I did not say I was not happy, mine was a technical response.
BeachBunny32233
July 21, 2015 11:23 am
Keys to a long marriage:
1) Don’t sweat the small stuff;
2) EVERYTHING is small stuff.
Francis Marion
July 21, 2015 11:29 am
Almost 20 years here…. Trust, loyalty, mutual respect, personal growth, closeness and regular/frequent “date nights” keeps you both smiling…
Bea Lever
July 21, 2015 12:05 pm
Long marriage was easier for those of us in the Boomer group, we are pre-narcissistic millennial generation so we had the ability to think about someone other than ourselves. We also have the ability to stick with someone through thick and thin.
My first post in the thread was given as a answer aimed more at the younger folks. The first day the moonlight and magnolias wear off, millies want a divorce.
TE
July 21, 2015 3:55 pm
@Bea, come on.
Watching Boomers divorce is why half the next generation was messed up enough to create this messed up one.
Swear to God denial of reality is our #1 Achilles tendon.
Ps, my parents never divorced and instead chose lives of depression and anger. Had they divorced my siblings might have had a chance.
The “secret” is in finding the flavor/level of crazy that you can both stomach/overlook and compliments your own.
I think it was much easier when you only had to deal for a couple decades, not half a century or more.
Even Mary and Joseph would have struggled to stay together that long.
Westcoaster
July 21, 2015 5:56 pm
“Yes dear”.
IndenturedServant
July 22, 2015 7:35 am
Sorry BEA. My comment was on divorce in general in response to what you said but not about you specifically.
Hugs? 🙂
Love, respect, fortitude and the ability to keep your mouth shut when they squeeze the toothpaste from the top and put the toilet paper roll on backwards.
Rule 1: keep your mouth shut.
There are no other rules.
The key is getting some alone time.
[img
?resize=500%2C767[/img]
After 35 years of marriage, 28 of them working together in our business, two children and four grandchildren, I really have no clue. The stars and planets must have been perfectly aligned the day she said, yes.
Now I have to go take a shit, and I’m going to leave the door open.
separate residences?
I notice Mike the question is not “What is the key to a happy marriage?” instead it asks about a lengthy one. That is the beginning of understanding grasshopper, because after 34+ years I can only report that I have absolutely no idea. However it does help to place someone elses needs totally 100% before your own. Just this past weekend my 30yo daughter confided in me that she used to think her mother and I were the “….lamest, dullest people in the world. But now I realize you were right all along.” She also said she found herself becoming more and more like me as time passes. There is yet hope! Now if she would only change her voting practices…….
Realizing that you’ve found someone willing to put up with your dumb-ass is not something to trifle with. Marriage can be a lot like that movie Life of Pi. You have to recognize when it’s time to stay in your end of the boat or ride in the hastily built dinghy for a while. I closing in on 27 years…….6 weeks to go. I think I’m finally wearing my own “Richard Parker” down a bit but I could just be suffering from dehydration.
Date Night.
Deafness. Being blind helps also.
Make divorce illegal!
Pirate Jo
I thought you were going to say:
Don’t have kids!!!!!
Marry a woman who is deaf and dumb.
Veteran of 45 years. Marriage is like belonging to AA……..one day at a time. Never considering divorce as a option.
BEA said:
“Never considering divorce as a option.”
Perhaps I was just lucky but but I figure if you can’t stay married (and happy), you either made a poor choice in the very beginning or you have no character.
You are however granted dispensation when this chick shows up out of the blue and refuses to leave:
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Llpoh says:
Rule 1: keep your mouth shut.
There are no other rules.
WAFP…
I/S – I was answering the question of the day. I did not say I was not happy, mine was a technical response.
Keys to a long marriage:
1) Don’t sweat the small stuff;
2) EVERYTHING is small stuff.
Almost 20 years here…. Trust, loyalty, mutual respect, personal growth, closeness and regular/frequent “date nights” keeps you both smiling…
Long marriage was easier for those of us in the Boomer group, we are pre-narcissistic millennial generation so we had the ability to think about someone other than ourselves. We also have the ability to stick with someone through thick and thin.
My first post in the thread was given as a answer aimed more at the younger folks. The first day the moonlight and magnolias wear off, millies want a divorce.
@Bea, come on.
Watching Boomers divorce is why half the next generation was messed up enough to create this messed up one.
Swear to God denial of reality is our #1 Achilles tendon.
Ps, my parents never divorced and instead chose lives of depression and anger. Had they divorced my siblings might have had a chance.
The “secret” is in finding the flavor/level of crazy that you can both stomach/overlook and compliments your own.
I think it was much easier when you only had to deal for a couple decades, not half a century or more.
Even Mary and Joseph would have struggled to stay together that long.
“Yes dear”.
Sorry BEA. My comment was on divorce in general in response to what you said but not about you specifically.
Hugs? 🙂