What are you attached to? Can you become detached?
So, the photographer was here yesterday and took 50 pictures of the house. We should have them sometime today, and then in the next week or so we’ll signup and post them on a FSBO site …. and that’s the signal that the move is really going to happen. It will be an extremely difficult thing for Ms. Freud, and I anticipate great disturbance in the Force.
While she does not have The Hoarder sickness, she is a Keeper of Things. Everything is a “memento”, even clinical notes dating back ten years. So, how will she be able to get over 3,500 square feet (that includes the basement) of STUFF into a two bedroom apartment?? Her choices are; 1) sell, sell, sell stuff, 2) rent all the storage spaces in town, 3) learn the discipline of Detachment ….. or, a combination of all three.
Regarding that last one, let me go all Jeebus and Buddha on ya;
The Dalai Lama says, — “Most of our troubles are due to our passionate desire for and attachment to things that we misapprehend as enduring entities.” In other words, the most important concept when trying to incorporate non-attachment into your life — IF that is your goal — is by consciously acknowledging that everything that’s manifested in our physical world is temporary, not forever. You can only “lose” that which you cling to.
I got divorced after 19 years of marriage. Our house was bulging with stuff. My most cherished possessions were in my exceedingly large den …. a huge mahogany desk and literally a few thousand books. But, when I left that marriage in 2002, I drove off with what little I could stuff in my 1995 Lincoln Mark VIII …. a rather small car in terms of storage, 75% of which carried my clothes. I left poor as a church mouse, never looked back, and never regretted any of my “loss”. I came into this world naked and poor, and it’s likely I’ll exit the same way. lol
That’s NOT for everyone! And certainly not something I “expect” Ms Freud – or anyone else – to mimic. It’s merely my story so, please do not misunderstand what I’m saying. Non-attachment is NOT having to give up their possessions to somehow feel “free”. This is very far from the truth. Detachment is simply not feeling owned by the things you possess or desire … to be able to “let go” without remorse.
So, I ask again. If you are attached to stuff, can you become detached? OR, if you’ve become detached to stuff, how did YOU do it?
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(P.S. Looking forward to your responses, later tonight. Got stuff to do with my dad, and will be gone until late afternoon.)
Stucky, every engineer has run across “magic” at one time or another. The ability to deposit metals in MONOLAYERS, one atom deep, repeatably and accurately? The ability to cut “trenches” in silicon, line them with various III-V element combinations and make devices that work? Programs that go out on the Internet, find information from journals written in Chinese / Japanese / Russian / Hungarian / Klingon (coming soon) and translate it to English so you don’t have to repeat experiments to learn the result? Hard data from operating facilities to allow better designs for existing processes? Are these really indistinguishable from magic, per Arthur C. Clarke?
Obviously, St. Christopher’s statue is a magic you are unfamiliar with (me too). Will you let that stop you from utilizing it? Or hold on to your house longer because you won’t?
Bury the damn statue, if you have one. I don’t argue with whatever works, otherwise I’d never quit arguing. If it doesn’t work, you can feel warm and fuzzy about how others are superstitious; if it does, then it’s OBVIOUSLY a coincidence, and you can move on your way. See how that works? Now I’m going to sacrifice one of my neighbors to the Ancient Old Ones, since you never really know.
Can we call this terribly unimportant question over and done with? This is a bait and switch Stucky – yer trying ter look like yer detached from material possessions and then usin it as a platform ter show off yer awesome house when the rest of us r living in trailers. I’d love ter see you spend an evening scraping feces off Billy Jr’s face. Try walking uh mile in our shoes ya gawd dammed oaf.
BW, ef yew caint see threw Stucky by now, ah got a saint chris stachew yew ken berry in the north 40. thet trailer be gone sooner en a tornader garateed.
Stuck, Thet recolecks me, oops, that reminds me of the time we had a view master toy and the only reel we had was a set of pics of a house for sale. I knew that house inside and out, it was a fantasy home. Thanks for sharing your pics!
Stuck, your a treasure. Your articles merit your own blog, however, it wouldn’t be the same here without you. Keep up the good work. I know the move will have an impact but I hope you can keep ’em coming as good or ‘gooder’ than what you’ve done so far…