Guest Post by Alex Berenson
I read about this wannabe trend so you don’t have to
After Tuesday’s piece on how the United States is headed down the greased pole to the hell that was 1972, only with electric cars and stronger drugs, I decided I’d better read up on the current version of free love.
Aka wife-swapping. Or swinging. Or dropping ‘ludes and balling each other’s old ladies, man.
Spoiler alert: it’s all nonsense.
Nonsense dressed up in fancier names this time, as nonsense will. With a side of what’s good for the gander is good for the goose nonsense this time too. Progress!
But you probably already had figured all this out.
I must confess: I had to cut my research short because the nonsense is so tiresome. I couldn’t even get to the book by the Brooklyn lady who improved her marriage by having sex with lots of guys who aren’t her husband. Yay for her! I’m sure her kids are very proud. (The book’s called More. I’m not linking to it. Find it yourself, if you must.)
But here’s what the New Yorker (not exactly the heart of conservative ideology) had to say about More:
The memoir takes a long time to finish, not unlike a bad Ashley Madison hookup, but not before [Molly] Roden Winter offers closing remarks in defense of open marriage. She echoes the common refrain expressed by proponents of polyamory that the life style represents an abundance-oriented mind-set, whereas monogamy is a symptom of scarcity culture.
Scarcity culture. Huh.
I say again, huh.
Look a half-inch deeper, eliminate the gobbledygook, and three factors appear to be driving the swinging trend among our wannabe cultural elites (who, as usual, then spend tons of time and effort pushing everyone else to follow along, so they can feel better about themselves).
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(The good old days, when you didn’t need Google Calendar for a foursome.)
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The first is cultural. By cultural I mean drug-related.
A lot of these folks now use a lot of pot (normally I call it cannabis, its proper name, but I just can’t in this context). Worse, what most of them use is not really pot anymore. It’s extracted, purified THC, tetrahydrocannabinol, the active ingredient in cannabis, which they vape or ingest in edibles or liquid drops. Near-pure THC can have quasi-hallucinatory effects and lead users to prioritize sensation over emotion.
In other words, being super-high leads to bad decisions.
Shock, I know.
An increasing number of our cultural vanguard are now moving into psychedelics, mushrooms in particular. Like cannabis, ‘shrooms have been marketed as medicine, a quick and easy (and natural) mental health fix. They’ve been tested in clinical trials, I swear it. Psychedelics and polyamory go together like Jack-and-Coke. Hey, they both start with P, and that must mean something!
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Second, many of these couples are childless. (The husband and wife in More are a notable exception.)
Yes, of course, childless couples can fall in love and get married and stay married until death do them part.
But having children raises marriage’s stakes, both economically and more importantly because of the harm divorce can do to children. Being a good parent means not taking reckless risks with your kids, including with their emotions – which means not taking reckless risks with your marriage. And having sex with strangers while making sure your spouse knows about it pretty much defines a reckless risk to your marriage.
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(Yes it is. And so is polyamory.)
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Third, we come to what makes the world go ‘round.
Money, that is.
Women now make up most college graduates, and the percentage is rising.
In rich blue urban neighborhoods like Park Slope, Brooklyn, women are the primary earners in many marriages. (Not so much in the truly gilded precincts of San Francisco or Manhattan’s Upper East Side. The top levels of tech and finance where billions are made are still mostly male. But one floor down there are a lot of ladies bringing home the bacon as creative directors and whatnot while daddy stays home.)
And when shove comes to push, the golden rule is that (s)he who has the gold makes the rules.
Including the rule that she’s going to do whoever she likes.
In a striking number of polygamy stories, the woman is the one pushing to open the marriage. Maybe she’s dissatisfied sexually. Maybe she’s just bored.
What man would put up with this? What man wouldn’t walk out the minute his wife told him she was headed out to the local watering hole to find some strange?
One whose wife pays the mortgage.
Of course, rich men have pulled the same game on their stay-at-home wives forever. But they usually try to keep their affairs secret, at least secret enough not to be embarrassing to their wives. The polyamory version of this seems particularly cruel: insisting on your spouse’s buy-in while pretending you’re offering equal cheating rights to the other partner, who never asked for them in the first place.
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What’s striking about the polyamory articles is how cringey they are, all of them, how forced. The language is as tortured as the justifications. No one is ever honest enough to come out and say,
I want to screw around on my partner, and I don’t care if they like it or not, this is for me: He doesn’t fuck me right/she’s frigid as an igloo/I work my ass off while he stays home playing Fortnite/She’s gained a hundred pounds/I want to prove I still have it/I want something different/I’m bored, plain and simple.
And I have the juice in this relationship, she loves me more than I love her/I make the money and he’s not leaving. So I’m gonna use it.
No wonder they won’t be honest, though. Because all those justifications are just selfishness wrapped in a big burrito of me-me-me. No matter how anyone tries to dress it up, making sure your partner knows you’re with someone else is about the most toxic game you can play in a marriage. Far more toxic than simply cheating.
And only two kinds of people are likely to accept it: those who don’t have a choice (and will hate you for shoving yours down their throats), and those who no longer care what you do (and thus are no longer your partner at all).
But hey, the Brooklyn lady made it work. So maybe I’m wrong.
Take the under.
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This is news?
It’s what people do and have been doing for millennia . Only today, it is ALL out and done in the open, in your face, and pushed as normal and righteous as a ‘right’.
Many are unrestrained, undisciplined, immoral and ignorant.
They all wanted to be ‘tolerated’ and have ‘equal rights’. Now they are attempting to run your life and rule over your life and push the ideas that normies are the oddities.
Back of the bus normie kiddies.
“When two people are under the influence of the most violent, most insane, most delusive, and most transient of passions, they are required to swear that they will remain in that excited, abnormal, and exhausting condition continuously until death do them part.” ― George Bernard Shaw, Getting Married
https://www.goodreads.com/author/quotes/1938.Friedrich_Nietzsche
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https://www.youtube.com/@EleanorMortonable/videos
This woman is a Scot, despite her faked American accent here, and brilliant.
Reality testing: It’s What You Want™.
Cheating is about ego.
My love for my wife is much stronger than my ego.
Ass racer.
To bad you’re wife doesn’t feel the same when she is gobbling my cock.
I miss Smokey!
Shut up asshole!
Cheating is de facto proof of poor impulse control and an inability to properly price risk.
The best sex of my life was when my husband and I conceived our children, because the love we shared became more than just about us. These people engaging in this selfish lessening are just spoiled brats, and will end up alone and miserable.
When Will Smith slapped Chris Rock and it came out that Smith and his wife had had this “open” marriage, it put him in a whole different light. I think his movie career is over.
Beard is more like it.
I remember when Bob and Carol and Ted and Alice was in the newspaper ads for movies when I was a kid. That was back when you could pick a movie in five minutes instead of fighting pop up ads on the internet for 20 minutes. Anyway, it sounded gross. They should have just made it Bob and Carol and Alice. Or just Carol and Alice.
Bob, Alice, and the director were jews.
A guy who does right by his family should be done right by his wife. In this age of feminism, that is not the story.
Don’t let selfishness of G.R.E.E.D. ruin your life or the life of the one’s you love.
It’s all a sales pitch.
Selling behaviors they will later use to justify killing those who participate, and any close enough to be swept away with the sinners.
Polyamory is just a cuck euphemism. But we don’t need some jew to tell us what our morality should be.
Reminds me of that joke about dating that gal Rosie Palmm and all 5 of her sisters.
Pretty sure the girls don’t look like Natalie and Dyan
Just remember when you wake up stuck to the sheets and a Big Mike alphabet mess, sporting a days growth of beard, says good morning…you’re not in the 1970’s anymore.
I thought they called them pussies? Here pussy cat! Puss and Boots!
I don’t know why people have sex at all when 80% of people are infested with spike proteins.
It is a basic natural urge for all animals to recreate and continue the species. Circumstances do not diminish that urge. Why did slave ever recreate with your way of thinking? They knew their children would be in bondage.
Nothing is truly free.
Even death is expensive now days!
The average cost of a funeral and burial is $7,848, according to the latest data from the National Funeral Directors Association (NFDA). If you get a vault — required by many cemeteries — that number rises to $9,420.The average cost of a funeral and cremation is a little lower: $6,971.