The Mid-Wife Crisis

Guest Post by The Zman

Here’s an anecdote to consider. In my most recent travels, I was told by friends about a woman we know. She is about to leave her husband, who we also know. The two of them are in their mid-to-late-40’s and their children are teenagers. The man is just a normie, who was happy to live his live as a conventional man. His wife, in contrast, had sampled the narcotic of feminism in college. In marriage, she went from being a college feminist to being a petite bourgeoisie feminist, living in a comfortable suburb.


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The women who never move past college feminism tend toward a strange hypocrisy in married life. They adopt the lifestyle of June Cleaver, but rant and rave about women’s issue to anyone unfortunate enough to be within earshot. During elections, for example, they are sure that some candidate is plotting to stuff their uterus with Bibles and sew their legs shut. They also over-indulge in the artsy lifestyle. The women in question was into local theater and visual arts, aping the modern carny aesthetic.

In the case of this particular woman, it also meant embracing the latest Progressive lunacies. Her daughter declared herself a lesbian in high school and is now demanding everyone pretend she is a male. One son was put on female hormones, even though he displayed no signs of insanity. It’s child abuse, of course, but it is the latest thing for middle-aged feminist loonies. Of course, she has gone overboard into social activism, almost all of which revolves around the crotch. Feminism is mostly a crotch fetish now.

We tend to think of feminism as a young woman’s game, but the real damage done to society is by the middle-aged feminists. They are like the post-graduate drug dealers that hang around high school kids, offering them booze and drugs. Not content with having thrown their own lives away, they give meaning to their lives by helping the next generation destroy itself. That’s the modern feminist. Her singular purpose is to pass the virus onto the next generation, while simultaneously ruining the lives of her peers.

When you step back from the rhetoric, feminism has always been a tantrum against biological reality. Nature has assigned narrow roles to the sexes. Men are wired to mate as often as possible with as many females as possible. Women, in contrast, are built to select a high status male and keep him around for protection of themselves and their off-spring. The pair-bonding we see outside of sub-Saharan Africa is a delicate balance that requires a complex social structure to maintain. Feminism is a tirade against this reality.

The reason feminism may have such a strong effect on middle-aged women is a combination of biological reality and modern youth culture. Women usually start having their babies in their mid-20’s. Some wait longer, but by mid-30’s most women are done with babies. This means that middle-aged women, like the one discussed at the start, coming to the end of their biological road in their 40’s. They created life and brought it to the point where it can take care of itself, so hey no longer have an obvious role.

That’s one half. The other half and maybe the real cause of this late onset lunacy we call feminism, is youth culture. Everyone feels the cold shoulder of our youth obsessed modern societies. For the longest time, men were accused of having mid-life crises, where they would get in better physical shape, buy a sports car and maybe trade the old lady in for a younger model. This is not all wrong, Most men reading this who are over 40 know exactly what this means. You’re no longer young and it kinda sucks, but you deal with it.

Women have a much more difficult problem in our modern youth culture. Men can still get women well into their old age. All they need is money and just enough to impress a younger women. There’s a reason old rich guys have young hot wives or girlfriends. Just ask our president about that. Old guys can still make babies too. I know a few men who started having kids in their late 40’s. Their wives were in their early 30’s. Put less delicately, a man still has a reason to exist well into his old age, socially and biologically.

The middle-aged woman therefore runs out of road in her 40’s and looks around wondering why she is suddenly invisible. Young men are not interested, even if she has money. Men her age are lusting after young flesh. That’s the biology. Then there is the fact that there’s no longer an important social role for women in their middle years. In a prior age, a woman would enter these years helping her children prepare themselves for marriage and settled life. Today, those tasks are turned over to schools and pop culture.

Feminism, at least for middle-aged women, may simply be a manifestation of the mid-life crisis. These females are like wasps in fall. The queen wasp has stopped laying eggs and the males are no longer needed to gather food for the hive. So, they go a bit bonkers and that’s why every public trash barrel has a million wasps around it. They have a brief orgy of self-indulgence before they die. Middle-aged women, finding themselves with no obvious purpose, take up the mania of feminism. It is their mid-wife crisis.

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friendlyphil
friendlyphil
July 6, 2017 7:23 am

don’t forget the role of grandchildren, we just had our first with more to come I hope, my wife is in her late 50’s and is over the moon with this new addition to the family, she is in full grandma mode, doting and fussing, wonderful to see.

Other anon
Other anon
  friendlyphil
July 6, 2017 12:13 pm

As a 40-ish guy in a hetero-normal married situation, it has become apparent to me that a lot of the designated roles for women 40+ and especially 60+, rather than being stifling and oppressive, were in fact designed to provide them a purpose and positive role in overall society at the time when they are not personally breeding or raising children.

Obviously being an active grandmother is also a great role, but for some number of women that won’t be practical due to biology, family circumstances or kids having moved away for their jobs. And even for the lucky ones (who could be >80% without feminism), the grandkids will eventually be older, and grandma will probably be too old to be the same help for great-grandchildren.

That doesn’t mean that PTA, Church-lady and sewing circle stuff is awesome, but it beats being a divorced cat-lady who will start up some addictions and eventually die alone.

EL Coyote
EL Coyote
  friendlyphil
July 7, 2017 12:57 am

My 1-1/2 yo grandkid is moving out this weekend. I will need lots of support here.

Maggie
Maggie
  EL Coyote
July 8, 2017 1:46 am

I hope the move is a good one for all concerned. I know you’ll miss the little critter and will be happy to post images of fuzzy bunnies (alive) to cheer you up.

EL Coyote
EL Coyote
  Maggie
July 8, 2017 2:29 am
musket
musket
July 6, 2017 8:43 am

Don’t forget the ones who go and get a government job trying to change the world when the can’t even change lanes on a highway successfully without screwing something up………

Mongoose Jack
Mongoose Jack
July 6, 2017 9:05 am

Hmm….. could be.

Iska Waran
Iska Waran
July 6, 2017 9:26 am

Zman’s article really only applies to crazy women, and they’re no more than about 70-75% of the female population.

Maggie
Maggie
  Iska Waran
July 6, 2017 10:47 am

I think your estimate is conservative. About 90% of the bitches I know are nuts.

Captain Willard
Captain Willard
July 6, 2017 9:33 am

Male mid-life crises spoil just one life at a time while enriching divorce lawyers, Pfizer, gym owners and Porsche dealers along the way. The mid-life crisis of the Baby-boom and GenX generation of females, even though it afflicts less than half of these generations in the US, is destroying the whole goddamned country with no collateral benefits.

However, it is worth noting that both Romney and Trump prevailed among married white women. So it might be wrong to suggest that all married women have fallen prey to this collective delusion.

Suzanna
Suzanna
  Captain Willard
July 6, 2017 12:54 pm

The role of the post middle aged woman
is to take good care of her husband, any
children and grandchildren, and be a good
role model to other women. It is a very full
life and very rewarding.

Sex turns to cuddle…most overwt. men, and men
over 60/by 70 are no longer able to have vibrant
sex. A woman’s role is to assist him. 🙂 So there!

Last, only 10% of the women I now know (rural)
are nuts. Maybe I am among the 10%…I do so love
having fun.

Maggie
Maggie
  Suzanna
July 6, 2017 1:03 pm

I have begun to limit my contact with the “other” kind, Suzanna. I tried to befriend the women who would be men, but can’t stand their ugly mugs ogling my husband.

Maggie
Maggie
July 6, 2017 10:46 am

I think the feminism mantra brought disaster to the family unit as a building block of our society. When birth control pills came onto the market in 1960, women suddenly got “control” over reproduction and, instead of it enabling them to build rewarding careers and establish their families on their own timetable, it allowed the to hump any Tom, Dick or Harry they felt like humping. In short, it turned young women (who were too immature to understand what they were doing to their psyche) into whores. If I were the type to psychoanalyze shit to death, I’d suggest some horny bastard MAN was at the helm of this shipwreck called Feminism, but since I know some horny bastard MAN is always at the helm of every shipwreck according to Feminist lore, I’ll avoid wasting time psychoanalyzing any of it.

Interesting article Z, but I personally think most women would be as happy in a traditional role as I am if their husband’s were as willing to honor and respect them as mine does me. It does take two to tango.

Suzanna
Suzanna
  Maggie
July 6, 2017 1:05 pm

Said well, and agreed Maggie.

I may have had access to BC, but as a young
woman I preferred the company of men. Often
I was the only female (boyfriend accompanied)
in a group of +- 10 males. Men loathe and disdain
women that have sex with just anyone. I wholly
abstained, (not for admiration) because I wasn’t
about to get intimate with strangers…YUK.
What happened? Men of all stripes, races, socio-
academic status tolerated me and never bugged me
at all. Some told me quietly and privately, they
had never met a woman like me. I wasn’t “after”
anything. I was content to watch/listen to men
being men. Feminism/crap attitude toward men
is a plague on society. Z is correct.

Maggie
Maggie
  Suzanna
July 6, 2017 1:10 pm

I had similar experiences in the AF, since I was often the only woman on a crew and ended up out for the evening with a pack of men hoping to get lucky. But, because I was careful with my reputation and behavior… none of them expected to get lucky with me. Perhaps they hoped, but rarely did any of them try.

EL Coyote
EL Coyote
  Maggie
July 7, 2017 12:47 am

Hoped? With their filthy imagination you should have scrubbed extra after those evenings.

Anon
Anon
July 6, 2017 10:53 am

I have personally seen some women in their 40’s that are quite attractive. The problem is that nowadays, they are as rare as the hope diamond. The women of that age group have let themselves go to the point that they are simply unattractive to men – of ANY age. And, it is infecting women younger as well now. I have seen 20 somethings that are supposed to be in great physical shape, at the peak of their desirability, with tattoos all over, overweight or obese, and if that is not bad enough, they have piercings and barely groom themselves. Really?
Frankly, if this keeps up, I suspect the human race in 500 years may go extinct….

Poet Warrior
Poet Warrior
July 6, 2017 11:05 am

How unfortunate that humanity reaches a high level of comfort and then reverts to self-destruction …. when a simple investigation into the ‘true nature of reality’ from a mind set as an observer would bring great joy … knowing oneself is our journey and ultimate goal … all things rise, exist and then vanishes … why oh why do we insist to suffer delusions of victimization???

BB
BB
July 6, 2017 12:19 pm

Z Man acts as if Feminism pop up out of nowhere . This poisonous ideology comes straight out of Marxism.It was first introduced by the Jewish subversives at the Frankfurt School in Germany .It is just another way to undermine Western Civilization by attacking the family unit. Feminism , Critical Race Theory , the Homosexual political agenda ,Gender Studies are all part of Cultural Marxism propaganda.Just more ways to create animosity between people .Just more of the Jewish plotting against our society.

cantbaretowatch
cantbaretowatch
July 6, 2017 12:24 pm

“Her daughter declared herself a lesbian in high school and is now demanding everyone pretend she is a male.” How about you “pretend” that I am pretending. All this pretending reminds me of my favorite movie where a girl is pretending to be a boy who is pretending to be a bear called “Yentle Ben.”

Searcher After Truth
Searcher After Truth
July 6, 2017 1:57 pm

The world has forgotten why we marry.
Check this out:
http://hardwiredtomarry.blogspot.com/

razzle
razzle
July 6, 2017 2:31 pm

— “Women, in contrast, are built to select a high status male and keep him around for protection of themselves and their off-spring.”

There is not a monolithic mating strategy. Some women are more inclined to lock one in and try to keep him around.

Others are more inclined to lock NONE in and leave behind a trail where statistically at least some of them might survive even if most don’t.

Then there is the particularly terrifying strategy. Lock one man in, but still harvest as much genetic diversity as possible.

What’s interesting about this strategy is in a homogenous society it’s extremely difficult to tell it is happening. The culture might on the surface promote a monogomous lifestyle, and the surface appearance of it will ensure the typical guy will work VERY hard to provide for his wife and “his” children never knowing any better. All while a non-trivial portion of this female population is still following the 80/20 rule (80% of the women having sex with 20% of the men).

Think about it, in a community where most people look fairly similar what is the most genetically beneficial strategy? The woman literally confining herself to her husband… or locking in a husband but still mating with the warrior/chief (soldier/mayor/celebrity) because that will mean the child will have the caretaking of the husband with the genes of the stronger man.

Cuckolding is unfortunately a part of the traditional marriage culture and it’s only in areas where the women are dumb enough to do it with racially different people that it becomes readily visible. However the women engaging in this strategy of multiple partners have a tendency to avoid getting pregnant with someone where it will be obvious and/or aborting it if they realize they are pregnant within a window of time where the kid will obviously not be the fathers.

razzle
razzle
  razzle
July 6, 2017 2:57 pm

Note: Traditionally it has been women in communities who were the strictest enforcers of sexual faithfulness between each other because of the consequences when one of them starts gaming the system. Men and the laws were simply the strong arm to enforce what was just as much the will of the women.

i forget
i forget
July 6, 2017 2:31 pm

If making babies does it for you, fine by me. But it’s not raison detre. Determinism is real alright. But there’s more than just one.

There have always been good & strong people, indifferent if not impervious to cult•ural norming (a species of dumbing down, or lowest common denominator “prevails”, really) of both genders who have decided, or even had it decided for them, not to reproduce. And it’s not as if there is a shortage of people.

I have plenty of praise for older women, basis my experiences with individual ones when I was a younger man. Social roles? Like, I’m ready for my close-up, Mr. DeMille – but what’s my motivation? The worst of Hollywood lives are not all that is out there.

The fool generalizes the particular; the nerd particularizes the general; some do both; and the wise does neither. ~ Nassim Taleb

RiNS
RiNS
July 6, 2017 3:19 pm

….the real damage done to society is by the middle-aged feminists. They are like the post-graduate drug dealers that hang around high school kids, offering them booze and drugs.

Yep.

Zed-man a most excellent summation of the rot and neurosis that feminism inflicts on this world.

oldtoad
oldtoad
July 6, 2017 4:06 pm

Well done all, good article and great commentary.

Women seem to know the kind of men they want, Men are learning what they do not want.

Vektor
Vektor
July 6, 2017 4:44 pm

Feminism is a child’s tantrum that can never be satisfied. It is not, was never, about equality. It is about female empowerment and male dis-empowerment, with no limit or end goal.
Women throw the tantrums, but it is men that give feminism power, by giving in to demands, making concessions, etc. It is men that created and enforce the unjust laws and it will not stop until men tell women NO. I see no political party in any western democracy that is willing to do this.

razzle
razzle
  Vektor
July 6, 2017 5:11 pm

— “I see no political party in any western democracy that is willing to do this.”

Islam will do it for us if we don’t.

james the deplorable wanderer
james the deplorable wanderer
July 6, 2017 5:41 pm

Nice article.
Unfortunately, life is not fair. Trying to make it so leads to problems for somebody, either one or the other in a marriage. About the best you can do is “say what you’ll do (up front), and do what you say”. That’s honest, as the very least.
The challenge in living this way is the discipline required to “do what you say” when things change on a continual basis. It takes guts, discipline and honor to keep your word when life turns against you.
I have a middle-aged friend whose wife has worse medical issues than mine. I’ve been told (in confidence, we’ve been friends twenty years) that her condition(s) have gotten worse; they cannot have sex any more. It is physically painful for her now.
He is in fair shape, better than I am. He eats right, works out and looks twenty years younger than he is (he doesn’t have my grey hair, either, damn him). He can still have sex – but doesn’t. When he married her, he took it seriously – better or worse, richer or poorer, so long as you both shall live. He isn’t running around on her because he is being faithful both to her and his word, as he swore to all those years ago.
I am amazed by his stand; I doubt one guy in a dozen could do this. Most wouldn’t even try, I suspect. I bet eleven out of twelve would get a divorce as soon as the problem developed.
Since he’s middle-aged, if she holds on he could be looking at five, ten, twenty years or more of a sexless marriage. I don’t know what he thinks about that – whether it fills him with rage, despair or just doesn’t matter, duty is duty. We are friends, but so far we have not talked about that. Knowing him though, he’s smart enough, it has to at least have occurred to him. Maybe he takes it one day at a time.
I look at him and his situation, and wonder if I have that kind of love, determination and discipline in me. I hope I never have to find out – and that I do, if it ever does happen.
What are your trials and tribulations? How do you deal with them?

ragman
ragman
July 6, 2017 6:11 pm

Suzana: you are not only nuts, you are completely full of shit! Who the fuck are you to say that “post whatever the fuck” women don’t enjoy sex or older men “cant have vibrant sex”. Speak for yourself, you dried up ole douchebag!

Maggie
Maggie
  ragman
July 7, 2017 12:07 am

Geesh, the ragman is “on the rag” or something. Suzanna speaks true for many older couples.

Overthecliff
Overthecliff
July 6, 2017 7:02 pm

All women aren’t like that but a lot of them are.

Hondo
Hondo
July 6, 2017 11:25 pm

When Eve was the only woman on the planet, God Himself could not keep her from destroying Adam, all their descendants, and the whole damned universe for that matter. Now there are nearly 4 billion women roaming around every nook and cranny, by way, street and highway, infesting every home, business, and yard sale on earth, while God is nowhere to be found, and one article and a few comments on midwife crisis is gonna get the problem solved. You make me laugh.

razzle
razzle
  Hondo
July 6, 2017 11:48 pm

It was Adam’s responsibility to lead Eve.
It was Adam’s responsibility to not follow Eve’s suggestion.
It was Adam’s responsibility to not pass the buck when God asked what happened.

You have the opportunity to not blame others for your actions.
You have the opportunity to not follow bad suggestions.
You have the opportunity to lead.

— “You make me laugh.”

Well good, I like making people laugh.

You make me sick.

EL Coyote
EL Coyote
  razzle
July 7, 2017 12:44 am

razzie, John Wayne is puking in his grave.

razzle
razzle
  EL Coyote
July 7, 2017 1:04 am

I’m starting to think the reason the sky spins around the earth is because we’re all rolling in our graves right now.

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norman franklin
norman franklin
July 7, 2017 7:45 am

There it is. She said they will never assimilate, and there number one priority is protecting their women. Number two is pleasing allah.

If she is indicative of a typical muslim woman. I don’t think she has to worry as western men would won’t nothing to do with her or any like her.

I kind of feel sorry for the cave dwelling throat cutters and now fully understand why they prefer goats, and sheep as their companions

razzle
razzle
  norman franklin
July 7, 2017 8:43 am

— “There it is.”

Yup… her statements are as clear and defining in drawing a line in the sand as CNNBlackmail was for the media.

Desertrat
Desertrat
July 7, 2017 8:20 am

Back sixty or so years ago, a common smart-ass remark about a nerdy guy was, “He couldn’t make out in a whorehouse with a hundred-dollar bill.”

Then came the Militant Libbers, many of whom appeared to be the female equivalent of that sad little nerd.

Susan P
Susan P
July 7, 2017 8:28 am

While I am no fan of feminism, this author has a serious grudge against women, unnecessarily blaming them for too much of what is wrong with society. Women don’t have it easy either with today’s men. But I know the women you talk about – they are not the majority and definitely not just middle aged – who are raising a generation of snowflakes who are taught they can be any gender they feel like.

razzle
razzle
  Susan P
July 7, 2017 8:47 am

— “this author has a serious grudge against women”

He does not. You’re just not used to men speaking bluntly about criticisms that are female specific. Fair warning, it’s gonna get a lot harsher over the next few years as a natural retreat of the pendulum that has been pushing pro-female-specific narratives for so long.

It sucks for the women that never bought into it or pushed it but unfortunately the pendulum doesn’t swing with nuance. If you think Zman has a grudge you’re as unprepared for the tidal wave incoming as CNN was for more CNN memes.

— “Women don’t have it easy either with today’s men. ”

That’s because so many of them are more or less women.

james the deplorable wanderer
james the deplorable wanderer
July 7, 2017 3:34 pm

Hey Razzle:
(A) Write or save the article, possibly in Word.
(B) Send it to Admin at [email protected]
If he wants or you become (sanely) prolific, he will help you establish a signon.
Cheers!
JtdW