Today on Drudge, the main headline features yet another sexual harassment scandal; journalist Mark Halperin. When will the insanity stop? The body count in Hollywood is 43, and counting. (See link at end.)
Today’s questions are exceedingly personal. I’m submitting two QOTD threads today because I feel this one may not even get to 10 posts. Nevertheless …
Q1: Have you ever been the victim of sexual harassment?
Q2: Have you ever committed an act that could be construed as sexual harassment?
A simple “yes”, “no”, or “fuck off, Stucky!” will suffice. Details are optional. But, appreciated. I’m not going to define “sexual harassment” … it is whatever YOU think it is.
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Me? Yes, and yes. Details to follow in the comments section.
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Nearly every time I fly some guy in a blue-shirt costume is fondling my testicles. does that count? I certainly felt violated the first time it happened (hell, every time it happens).
You must be on some kind of an alert list. What have you done, said, written, read or thought that would get you a permanent place in the “let me feel your balls line”? Maybe it is viewing the TBD ?
Yes to #1 at least twice that I can think of off the top of my head. More if you want to count flashers.
No to #2
I can give details later.
If you have never done anything that could possibly be construed as sexual harassment, then you have no testicles. There are thousands of scenarios where the exact same behavior with one woman gets you laid but with a different woman gets you in trouble. That’s the root conundrum.
I’ve been harassed for the better part of twenty-two years. All I really want is a little sleep…
Lucky SOB.
what’s your wife’s email-i’ll send her this and you’ll be sure to get your sleep–
especially after i add a little to it–
Lol. Get lost Red – I don’t need any help from the likes of you. I see I finally got a thumbs down on that comment too. Is someone out there calling bullshit? Because this is definitely not the sort of thing I would ever bullshit about.
1. Not that I remember
2. Does ranting continually about the foolishness of the 19th amendment count?
1) Yes. Did things back in my 20’s that I should not have. Never anything like is in the news now – that “suck this and keep your job” shit is just unimaginable to me. Now that I have 3 daughters I am keenly aware of it these things, as I have to contemplate just how to go about ass-whipping somebody who does to one of them what Weinstein and these others are accused of. I wouldn’t piss on that bastard if he was on fire.
Funny thing is that I have in recent years twice been accused of “harassment” for just paying a compliment to a coworker. Still don’t understand how “you look nice today” qualifies as harassment, but whatever.
2) Yes. Again, nothing so crude, though.
Tom S, regarding those daughters, if you can teach them that they are worthy of respect and have a right to say “No!” it will go a long way. You won’t always be there to protect them or take out the guys who do these things. The college date who just wants to “play around” and then forces it too far, taking her virginity. The boss who insists she comes over to his apartment to “work” and then forces her to have sex with his fat, sweaty jerkass in order to keep her job. The guy at the trade conference who pulls her off the elevator into his hotel room after the group dinner one night.
It goes a long way to teach your girls that they are valuable human beings. That they don’t HAVE to give into what men demand of them to be “good girls.” Teach them self-respect so they can say No! like many of the women Weinstein approached, who were clearly raised with the confidence to refuse him. Otherwise they’ll be self-loathing for the rest of their lives, and not through their own fault.
Thanks for the advice, No Name. I have taught them those things, and like to think that the lessons have sunk in.
I once called Mark Halperin a pussy. Does that count?
(I’m male)
1) Yes, though it was mostly amusing to me. If the roles were reversed, it would certainly have been considered
2) By today’s liberal standards, certainly. As a young man in the 80’s, having been raised in a very traditional, conservative mid-western family, my first few encounters with “liberal” women did not go very well. My attitude (correctly) needed some adjustments.
No. I guess I’m not pretty enough.
Yes. It is impossible for a guy to get laid without crossing the restrictive boundaries in vogue now.
I was thinking the other day I am glad I am WAYYY past the dating stage. I would not want to be a single male on the dating scene in 2017.
I hear ya, FM. I think that all the time. So glad that phase of life is in the distant past. It was bad enough the first time.
For the last 25 to 30 years working for Fortune 500 corp america, I have had numerous training events on diversity, etc. The last thing I would ever do is ask a female employee out on a date. I do not understand all these ‘kings’ in media, politics etc, using their rank to harass women, given the awareness education. There is no excuse.
One time I saw the #2 in a company get fired for harassment. I was shocked, but pleased it happened.
Q1: No
Q2: No, However I have worked mostly around men and I don’t swing that way.
Q1- Yes… If I enjoyed it was it harassment? Debbie… call me if you read this.
Q2- Not really, but there are so many whining butt-hurt dickheads around these days I’m sure I’ve offended somebody somewhere any number of times. It could have been a daily event when I was still working.
A1C Debbie Moore Charged Capt Siddell with Sexual Harrasment and Maj Hammers took it Balls to the Wall: it was a month of Hell for Capt Siddell as Base Legal dealt with their biggest case in years. Every remotely associated person was called in by a Col for a questioning; even people I barely recognized. Maj Hammers awarded A1C Moore Airman of the Month and took her to dinner. The Final Report totally cleared Capt Siddell. A1C Moore then charged Maj Hammers with Sexual Harassment; it was funny as Hell to me but amazing how the base legal system had grown a brain during the preceding month.
Bob, are you aka Maggie?
No, but we were in the same USAF!
No but I saw similar shit. So did you.
Q1: Have you ever been the victim of sexual harassment?
I wish, especially from a few of my yoga instructors……
Q2: Have you ever committed an act that could be construed as sexual harassment?
Yes, I’ve been accused many times by some people of the things I’ll say, but a great laugh by other people. Hard to define harassment I guess because I don’t have a filter. No touching or demands of sex though, just joking around.
Facebook sure was full of those #metoo posts, my God, groupthink amongst females is very powerful. And some men too, my cousin Bill was ashamed at the number of women that had a story to tell, but was also astounded that no men had a story as well. Bill used to be a man, he lives in Massachusetts, he’s been transformed slowly….
Our ex office manager that was convicted of embezzlement charged me with sexual harassment six months after her sentencing, scared the shit out of me, the judge thankfully dismissed that charge as having no merit.
masturbation without consent is rape!
donny, TSA is just checking to see if it’s loaded or just shooting blanks.
Q1: Yes, three times.
#1. Worked on the on-base (Forbes AFB, Kansas) bowling alley as a part time job. Met a black dude, my age. Invites me to his dorm room after work. Smoked some weed. Suddenly, he whips out his dick, and asks me to give him a blow job. Seriously. No, I didn’t oblige. I just laughed and laughed … I get that way when smoking weed.
#2. Another Air Force base in Greece. My best friend. One day we’re wrestling. I have him pinned … like I’m totally on top of him. He decides that’s the right time to let me know he’s a homo. Really. How? He said something like “You feel good on top of me.” I wasn’t smoking weed. I did not laugh. We never hung out again.
#3. Around 5th grade … mom takes me shopping for school clothes. The pervert takes me to the dressing room to “measure” my inseam. Riiight. Motherfucker decides to brush the back of his hand against my dick ‘n nuts. And, lingered there.
So what did the black guy’s dick taste like?
Dutch, your fantasies may one day come true.
In the meanwhile, stop salivating.
Stucky did not do the deed.
With the black steed.
After the weed.
Your wife’s hoo-hoo after not bathing for 3 weeks.
So you’ve met my wife?
Sounds as if he’s more than met her.
I thought you once said it tasted like chicken. Maybe that was a different guy.
Wasn’t me. I don’t know what chicken cock tastes like.
It was one of Stucky’s heavy handed jokes, the punch line was ‘it tastes like chicken’. He grossed everybody out.
Ah, I see. Well, so does rabbit.
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Q1 – yes, and all involved a workplace. Two were just verbal. Another was by a recent (married) boss from my part-time on-campus job who wrote me and suggested we start seeing each other (this was when I had just graduated and was newly married myself). The worst was when a handyman doing repairs at my house just grabbed me, kissed me, and announced we’d be good together, whereupon I pushed him away and told him to stop being stupid. All of these I defined as men acting silly. I handled them and went about my business.
Q2 – no. Generally I don’t harass anybody.
Ah.. not at work anyway. I don’t know much about gay culture, but I’m pretty sure they
don’t play by the new rules. Show up at a gay beach, or river, or “spot” wherever that is in short shorts and you will find this out. Skip the foreplay ya kno? Actually, it is more than a bit scary being aggressively hit on by gay pedophiles , and I have an appreciation of what some woman must feel sometimes. Think skin crawling panic.
#2 no, unless you count calling a co-worker “Honey” (which I admit now was wrong, but hey, I thought it was a complement considering she was actually UGGLEE). I don’t recall getting from A to Z with the 5-6 co-workers I dated over the years (each a mistake, bad idea, don’t do it) as having crossed over a line of harassment in the process. My tolerance for rejection is WAY too low for that.
The only case know of someone else being taken to HR over was a manager saying he was “going to miss those big tits” at the going away party for a departing cutie (she WAS real cute). I can say most male co-workers probably felt the same way, but it’s not something you say.
Q2: Yup.
I’m working as a programmer-intern for Tenneco. Me, and another student; a very well endowed Italian chick from Brooklyn.
Back in those days your programs were on punch cards. Had to print everything, too … nothing done on-line. So, we were constantly going back and forth from the office to the card readers/printers. Well, they stuck both of us in an “office”…. a closet, really, hardly big enough for two desks. Janet Kileen (real name) would leave the cubby-hole, and then I would time my exit just as she was coming back … right as she entered through the door. This resulted my rubbing my body against hers, especially against her bodacious titties. I did all but suck on ’em. It was blatantly obvious what I was doing. She didn’t complain, though. Probably cuz she wasn’t very good at programming. I helped her a lot. She paid the price … heh heh. Today, they would have had me arrested.
Also enjoyed titty bars. Tucking in that dollar. “Don’t touch!”, they said. Riiiight. I ALWAYS touched. That probably doesn’t count as harassment though. Not when SHE accepted mah muney.
“I did all but suck on ’em.”
First, let me say that your behavior was shameful and I hope you learned from it. Now, I’d like to say your stories always have a good laugh hidden in there. I was tickled with Bucky’s ‘acres of pussy’ but this tops it all.
I never had the guts to do that kind of stuff. A couple years ago, one of the guys took me aside for some fatherly advice, funny because Alan is years younger than me, he said, Chen, if your going to fuck her (the beautiful blonde) this is your best friend – he showed me his palm. I understood and I said, I will make a deal with you, you have to fuck her first. He said, deal, and shook my hand.
I learned the hard way, you never fuck a bitch at work. I learned from that experience that it is safer to be a dick with women. Make cutting remarks or use the word bitch (not cunt) often. It is insurance against the offer of ‘free’ pussy.
My wife laughed out loud when I explained that a song titled ‘delicious lies’ actually made sense. I said the bitch used to tell me I had a big dick and I loved her delicious lies. In my defense, it was bigger than the smaller it is right now.
Yes , years ago and she was a big gal .Kinda fat.She used to grab my butt .At times it was embarrassing but I got used to it.Tell you the truth I was hoping one day she would lose all that weight.
No, got my ass grabbed by a woman once. I think she came directly from the circus tent cause she smelled like horses and was wearing stage makeup.
No. When fourteen, fifteen, my father told me that a man’s job was to protect women and those weaker than myself. I believed him.
Q1 – Yes. Constantly. I do mean constantly. I’ve lost count frankly. I’ll start from the time I was 4. My uncle introduced me to that “thing” and thought it would be a good idea if I were to touch it, maybe even kiss it. He was 16.
When I was 10 it was an USAF guy in NH at Peas AFB (now closed) showing me his business like it was no big deal at BBQ’s, every weekend one summer (1976) Shorts, no underwear and leering looks toward me, legs spread when no one was looking. I did tell someone and it stopped immediately, after hurt looks and then angry looks. He was one that I knew, absolutely knew I should never ever be alone with.
Onward to “normal” life in Jr High and High school, then college…CONSTANTLY. Some not so bad, some very, very bad. Some coaches, most all other athletes on the guys side of things. As a 6′ tall blonde athlete of Nordic/Viking origin I guess that was my lot in life. I dealt with it, it made me stronger. Actual rape only occurred once. The rest of it was a total fight and constantly. It forged my sword.
Work place? CONSTANTLY. I’m serious, I’ve lost count, but it is in the hundreds of times. It has only slowed down once my hair started to grey, but it still occurs here and there. Even while I was showing paintings at my own art show for gods sake. I arranged a showing for a weekend at a lovely large old downtown building with two other male artists. One a very good friend who never went there and the other? He’s the “Come on up and see my etchings” kinda artist. Of course he totally behaved himself when my husband was around. He knew better. Didn’t stop him from showing me the painting, inspired by my beauty (hahaha!! they all say that) of a blond woman, naked seen from behind, looking over shoulder longingly…hung right over the men’s toilet. You just can’t make this shit up.
Q2 – Under today’s parameters, I would think that I must have harassed someone. Because it was CONSTANTLY happening to me I’m sure it seemed the norm in my own mind. There is only one kid though that I can remember being saucy with…flirty, silly and then probably raunchy if I remember correctly. Definitely out in the open. He is the only one I can think of, but given the environment, I probably did more.
I have an addendum to it all though. I do not hate men. I hate predators, and there is a difference. A vast difference. I actually adore men. I’m married to my best friend, the best lover I have ever had. I never slept with a woman, never had an interest in going that route because ewwww. So this whole thing today just baffles me. I think it’s more whiny silly shit actually.
The predators, I would slay with my profoundly forged and unbreakable sword. Regular, normal, red blooded beautiful men, I can handle it and that is how our species moves on.
Sounds like a letter from the Playboy adviser.
Did you get an erection?
Just the name Christine Wasahati did it for me. Then she describes herself as a 6′ blonde Amazon. Everybody and their prevert uncle hitting on her and grabbing everything made her sound like Little Annie Fanny, that perennial object of male desire.
EC
And it’s Pease AFB, you obviously were not a Red Rope.
The base wasn’t important enough for me to go look up the correct spelling actually. I don’t really care. And it doesn’t have much to do with the story. It could have any base USA.
Yeah, I was constantly called an Amazon, not my words, theirs. And it still applies, however at 51 I am now more of a redhead. My blond has mostly left me. Right around menopause 😉
I suspect it was some sort of challenge, my height that is.
And the name…is Wasankari (by marriage) My maiden is Smith. Yep, running from the law kinda name 😉
There was a study or poll or something like that, (about 10 years ago)(no I’m not going to go look it up, it is what it is) that stated a full 2/3rds of 13 year old girls have experienced unwanted touching in the form of asses grabbed, titties twisted, (boys labels, not mine) stuff like that – with 5 MORE years of school onslaught. Then college. Then work. Guess what? I’m not judging all men as bad. There is a learning curve and the better balanced man is not the one who is the predator. Whether 5′ tall or 6′ tall. It doesn’t matter. It happens to almost all young women. And…it would seem men too.
51 is barely legal around these parts. Welcome just the same.
EC
https://youtu.be/XtHXrSUOeSY
Christine, I appreciate your candor. I may answer this more fully on my PC later. I do NOT have personal harassment history imho. Locker room comments do not count to me. Especially when I talked like a sailor myself. But there were a couple incidents I either reported or knocked the hell out of someone for.
I did have a consensual relationship with a guy in a supervisory position. After his divorce was final I married him. 25 years last month. Does that count?
If I ever harassed anyone it would have been personal not sexual.
“with a guy in a supervisory position.”
Is that anything like the missionary position?
Only a couple of times in those early days.
Haha! Maggie we have something in common besides TBP! 17 years for me!
Mary Christine… I have a feeling most of the women who hang around here with this pack of yard dogs are a lot like you and me. Lots of class and even more sass. And if you give us any shit, we might just kick your ass!
“…a full 2/3rds of 13 year old girls have experienced unwanted touching in the form of…”
Well I’m guessing a full 3/3rds of 13 year old boys have experienced unwanted touching in the form of punching, slapping, headlocks, wrestling, kicking, nutshots…
Hell when I was 16 I worked at a pizza place. The “initiation rite” for the cooks involved putting the aluminum pizza paddle in the oven until it was up to temperature, then sneaking up behind the new guy and branding him on the back of the arm.
So fucking what?
Well, there is this thing called growing up ala Lord of the Flies – anything goes, but we are young and we jostle I guess, because…we are called to it as humans. We are within the same age group.
There is ENTIRELY this other thing called abused by 13. Sexual, The abuse, is not by those within our age group (or thereabouts) it’s by the motherfucking predators. The older men or women who do the abusing. THAT is fucking what. Take a look at what I said at the start. The fucking 4 year old little girl having her 16 year old uncle put his dick in her face. THAT is fucking what. All the fighting and wrestling etc etc etc, from both boys and girls is one thing. We learn like wolf packs. Wolf packs typically don’t go after the young and stick their dick in a 4 year old’s mouth. SO…the inference as it relates to the START of this entire discussion was sexual abuse. NOT physical. Whole nuther topic. And yeah, that goes on too, obviously, but not the point here. THAT is fucking “what.”
I gotcher back Chris. The asswipes here like to think they know more than they really do.
That was an attempt to get the “real dogs” on an anti-bitches rant.
Sorry I wasn’t online to jump in.
Magita, we are breaking in a noob. Could you please butt out? You cost us Left a Comment last time. We don’t want to risk losing Christine Matahari.
Talkin ’bout two different things Christine. Let me help you refresh your failing memory: “There was a study or poll or something like that, (about 10 years ago)(no I’m not going to go look it up, it is what it is) that stated a full 2/3rds of 13 year old girls have experienced unwanted touching in the form of asses grabbed, titties twisted, (boys labels, not mine) stuff like that”.
Since you cited it as a study or poll or something like that (apparently you’re too lazy to look it up), sounds like peer-group shit that we all endured growing up. That is what I was referring to as “So fucking what”.
Then you responding by bringing up actual sexual abuse suffered by yourself, thus moving the goal posts. Moving them a lot, actually. First it was sticking a dick in the face: a crime which should have resulted in castration in my opinion. Then you changed it to sticking a dick in the mouth. Goal posts moved across town, and a crime that should have resulted in the death penalty. Neither Offense having anything to do whatsoever with my comment.
Here’s my point: I was responding to your (non) statistic about some nebulous thing you called “unwanted touching” which can be a very broad definition indeed. I was NOT talking about the sexual abuse you endured. Somehow, you missed that. Badly.
Maggie, nice virtue signaling. Try reading the comment for comprehension next time.
1) Yes…when I was in college and got hit on by some of the older married ladies that worked at the Dept. store I worked at. The attractive ones I took them up on their offer;the ugly ones…nope.
2) According to the Femanazi’s all intercourse is rape…so yes..JK.
I’ve messed with a lot of the ladies I worked with in my younger days. I suppose it could be taken as harassment . However if they told me no that was the end of it. I went to the College Of Charleston….we had 6 girls to one guy…it was a playground and I loved the slide !
When I got older I took the advice…don’t dip your wick in the company well .
We know all about your cheap floozy of a life, Bucky. It’s a wonder you drew the line at ugly. You make Gene Simmons sound like an absolute prude.
EC
1. Yea, #doublestandard…I don’t think there is a man that hasn’t been harassed in one way or another. We just don’t talk about it…unless there is something to gain.
2. No, I mean everything I’ve ever done had a willing participant. Doesn’t mean I wasn’t an asshole the next day and they in-turn regretted said participation, but none came back and cried rape due to the remorse.
If 93 year old bush sr can , from a wheelchair, threaten a young woman who can kick his ass. Then I am sure I made a looker feel uncomfortable just by admiring Gods handiwork. For that I am grateful to the good Lord above for his good work.
Who the fuck can down thumb this aged mossed covered stucky type that speaks such truths?
#1 No because all advances were welcomed and appreciated, therefore not harassment.
#2 Absolutely as most any interaction with another can be construed as harassment these days.
Echo prior comments, very glad I am not in the dating scene.
1) – Not all that experienced – married the first gal I ever made love to, now 36 years. Can’t say anyone ever made me feel uncomfortable once I left high school.
[Had part-time summer work clearing stumps from a distant neighbor’s yard – paid $6 an hour for it. Late middle-aged female wondered why I didn’t take my shirt off in the scorching Tennessee summer sun – felt uncomfortable enough to end the job a few days early (before running out of stumps). Nowadays – I’d probably do it, what can it hurt for an old lady to get some kicks? Never seemed anything close to physical on her part, probably just wanted to make sure I didn’t sunstroke out).
2) Under today’s rules, probably – but never had a complaint against me. Just lucky I guess.
Boom…poof…
Stucky. For God’s sake. Tell me that was the greatest comeback ever? Fuck me. Fuck me.
Clif High (webot guru) said some months ago that many TV news and entertainment people would be resigning, and that there would be hundreds of pedophile arrests.
Both of these have happened. Clif is not always accurate with his predictive linguistic algorithms, and the timelines are often way off, but this one hit the target.
Expect more to come.
(Now if only his $600/oz. silver prediction would come true!)
https://www.halfpasthuman.com/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqXZf0F4GLSX1QXBUgPXhqg
Penforce…did I miss something worth knowing?
WTF? A post about sex and the only picture is with goats?
Geez, I have to rescue this thread!
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You came awfully close to violating the No Nipple rule.
However, I am willing to show you my pumpkins in a non-threatening manner.
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I had my eyes dilated for my eye exam. I’m not doing the Cosa Nostra thing.
Good Golly, Miss Maggie!
Well Maggie, just call me a rebel.
…and I’ve violated that rule more than once here.
“I am willing to show you my pumpkins in a non-threatening manner.”
I do not know of any man who would feel threatened by your pumpkins, however, you and Rise Up should not do anything that might get either of you in trouble.
It’s the only reason we keep you around, Riser!
#1 Yes, often, especially when I was younger.
#2 I don’t think so.
I’ll share a little joke with you VV while I await Stuckey’s approving guffaw about my pumpkins. I was an instructor in the training squadron in AWACS after I travelled the world keeping the world safe for (or from?) democracy (which I mention a LOT to irritate EC, who was doing something equally glamorous at Chanute AFB in Illinois around the same time).
I taught mostly men, since there were few women in the radar tech career field. I only found ONE student of mine attractive, but was not tempted to cross the line. One day, we were on our way back from the flight line (at the alert facility for you Tinker Troglodytes lurking and critiquing) and as we passed by the student dormitories, he said something shocking to me. He said “If you want to go to my room and you promise not to tell anyone, I’ll show you my pet snake.”
I was irritated that he’d make a lewd suggestion to me in such a juvenile manner. Sure, he was cute and all, but I was a PROFESSIONAL woman and deserved a nicer sort of come on. I told him I could not do anything that might get either of us in trouble and nothing more was said.
He never graduated from the course. A week or so later, he got caught sneaking mice into the dorm and they found a Burmese Python hidden in his locker. I think he was given an administrative discharge.
I should have gone. It would have made a better story if I’d actually seen the python.
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Yoyo, there is no picture. I assume it is a Burmese python with a swastika? Am I imagining things? Well, my eyes were dilated earlier. Time to close this laptop and call it a day.
It’s a Day.
Yep. Beginning at age 2 or 3. I’ve been molested (including finger penetration when I was young) groped and grabbed all the way through my 20s.
Didn’t have much trouble after my early 20s. Don’t know why. Didn’t care. I’d have kicked anyone’s ass at that age who tried something on me. No, I lie. My husband’s best friend at the time (I was in my late 20s, I think) grabbed my ass and I was so shocked I didn’t react.
Most women I know have been molested or even raped. It’s a harsh world out there for women.
You just reminded me of a sad story from my early USAF days. I was the only female in a class of about 9-10 radar technicians at Keesler AFB, Mississippi. I became friends with a few and that friendship lasted a lifetime. Others, not so much. One of the group married a California gal who tolerated his groping of other women so that she could fly home to California and show off her dozens of bikinis. No kidding, she bought bikinis at the Base Exchange like some women buy shoes. Not me. I’m a rare lady out here in podunkflyoverville.
Anyway, after she got to know me, she liked me. Most women do. She told me about her husband’s tendency to come on to all women in their home and how horrible that made her feel. You know what I said?
“How come he never has come on to me???” Man, I was pissed. What the hell? I was young, in shape… if he was coming on to all the good-looking girls he knows, why not me?”
Isn’t that funny? Anyway, I learnt my lesson on that shit. Glad to see you here commenting.
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Pussyfart like that is going to drop dead in the real thing.
If Nov4 happens, I hope he’s found in the deepest, darkest basement they can find, tied to a cinderblock wall with extension cords, interrogated Iraqi-style.
I was sexually harassed once, when I was doing contract work. Due to the government’s policy of protecting endangered species, no matter how unqualified or insane, a tranny was put in charge of my team. This guy was certified crazy, and on crazy meds, and completely useless. He didn’t even know how to do his job. He was so screwey, he couldn’t be relied upon to do anything. He was so inconsistent, he told us if he said something and his friend/office manager said the opposite, to just go with the office manager. Oh, and he looked like a dude with boobs and a dress. He literally looked just like Terry Gilliam wearing a dress. He didn’t bother to try to pretend to be female, either, not that it would have made a difference, but talking to a guy wearing a dress is kind of off-putting. He knew that and flaunted it, too. It was obvious he liked being different for the attention it got him. It was also obvious he was a control freak, the kind that likes to be the one buying everyone drinks so they have to listen to him. He would come to work and tell us about his wild sex parties and his BDSM club he liked to visit. He tried to get everyone to go to his club with him and his wife (claimed he was a lesbian).
One night, out on a business trip, driving alone in the boondocks, he tried to get me to go to his club. I demurred, told him I’m a homebody, cheap, drink at home, not much fun, etc. He pressed again and I told him I’m married and it’s not really my wife’s scene. He pressed again and I turned him down again, just not for me, thanks. And that was it. Roughly that same period of time, he started stating contractors, like me, were useless for anything beyond menial tasks. Later, my company supervisor came to me to let me know he had a new job I might be very interested in and he told me, “You’ve done a good job here, but let’s face it-You’re not going to advance any further here. You’ve maximized your opportunities.” I felt like I had the elemenets for what the govt calls a “quid pro quo” sexual harassment case had I been a female and he a male, but seeing as the harasser was an endangered species, I figured it would go nowhere.
Plus, I did land a much better job, so I let sleeping fags lie.
Nope-never sexually harassed. Most of my coworkers have been dudes and I try to keep it somewhat professional in the office.
OMG… what a story. I am definitely lifting that for my “collection.”
Thanks.